The Photo’s You Post To Your Online Dating Profile

I finally decided to take on the world of online dating. Eeek! What an odd world. There are so many unspoken rules, so I thought I’d give some suggestions for the hard up man looking for a gal regarding posting photos to your online profile. I’m definitely not an authority on the subject but I thought I could shed some feedback based on some of my recent (wacky) experiences. (Ladies, you can use this advice too, just reverse the sexes.)

If you’re looking for a woman, it’s just never a good idea to post a picture with another one. I don’t care if she’s your cousin, your friend, your ex-girlfriend, your special buddy, etc. This does not entice us… at all. No one wants to start a ‘ship’ with someone that may have someone you need to compete with for attention. Whoever told you this would be a good idea did not have your best interests in mind. It suggests that she is still in your life, and I can safely say, that none of us are looking for any ‘ship’ with. If you’re trying to look like a player, again, this will not entice us because if we wanted a player, we’d go to a club or bar and skip this whole process. You’re actually much better off posting a picture that’s blurry or from far away.

It’s never necessary to post a picture of your bike, your guitar, your car, your boat, etc. That only tells us that you’re obsessed with these items and you would probably talk about these things incessantly on our date anyway. It tells me nothing that words in your profile couldn’t explain to me already.

One thing I see a lot of men do, and I feel so bad for them, is post pictures of them with their best looking friends. Not only do I want to contact you to ask for their information, but it’s too hard to not compare you to what’s standing next to you. I know it’s not a nice thing to say, but it’s true and I just don’t recommend it. You could be the greatest guy on earth but we’re not going to know it if you do this. (This comment makes me feel like a complete witch, but I promised you honesty.)

The pictures you post should be of you. If you have a good picture of yourself but someone is in it with you, CROP it! Technology has come a long way and has given us the ability to do this. If you’re online dating you should have a grasp of the editing tools you can use to do this with and even if you don’t, learn. It will definitely behoove you to learn in the long run.

Post pictures that look like you! It is so awkward to meet someone that doesn’t look like their photo. Posting a current photo of your likeness will save us both a lot of time and awkwardness. Not to mention, it is in some respect, lying. It’s ok if you’re not photogenic, most people aren’t. It’s been said that the eyes are the window to one’s soul. I truly believe you can usually decide if you like someone based on what their eyes and profile say.

As I said earlier, I’m definitely not the authority on online dating. But, it’s not like I’m a singleton in the profession of matchmaking (cough cough, Patti Stanger). BUT I can, with complete honesty, let you know my opinions based on the wacky experiences I’ve had in this short period of time. Take heed, but don’t give up!!!

Stay tuned for more adventures in my sordid dating life.